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Imaginary Friends

January 31, 2007

 

       

Rachel and Ande about the age when they had their imaginary friends

 

            My youngest sister, Rachel, and our youngest daughter, Ande, both had imaginary friends when they were little girls.  I can still see Rachel making a fort in the alcove by the front door and talking to her little friend.  I can still hear Ande telling AnnaMae, her imaginary friend, what to do.  It was the only time Ande got to be the boss—she needed AnnaMae.  I loved overhearing both Rachel’s and Ande’s conversations and watching them play with their little make-believe friends.  Ande would get so mad at me when I sat on AnnaMae and Rachel would tell her friend not to listen to me if I tried to talk to her—they were a little protective of their friends.

            The other day I was in town and excited to get home to read e-mails and blogs.  I was thinking about the Neighbor Jane Payne neighbors (subscribers) and the blogging community that I’ve completely-moved-my-fort-in-next-to-theirs and thought, “Oh my goodness.  I have my very own imaginary friends now.”  Some of you have graciously sent me pictures so that I don’t have to imagine yours and your family’ faces; still more of you have left comments and sent e-mails so that I don’t always have to create your side of the conversation, but there is still a striking resemblance between imaginary friends and the blog world.  And I love it—Rachel and Ande had blogging figured out long before blogging had blogging figured out.

            I love reading your day-to-day happenings and trying your recipes and ideas.  I love to see how your kids are growing and read what you’re thinking.  So for any of you “Shall I blog, or not?” wonderers . . . please do.  It’s a world all its own and I’d love to come and see you.

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I love this!  I have thought often how we are all imaginary friends, but at the same time so very real and cherished.  I am happy to find  your blog!   Kelly (thister thaster) 

 

Oh my goodness, Jane, you did it!  I am converted, reformed, and committed to blog world!  I have not had the best start, but I will improve :-)  You have so rubbed off on me!
 
Talk to you later-
Heather
 
Jane, I love this.  My imaginary friends have given me so much.  I feel connected to so many wonderful women.  With you, I'm just lucky that you are both in my blog life and my real life.  What a blessing!  Love, Melanie

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Quotable Quote

January 30, 2007

 

 

“All I have seen teaches me to trust the Creator for all I have not seen.”

–Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

            One of the best things about my family is that I'm grouped with people of different strengths and abilities that support me in my weak areas.  Our daughter, Cali, has always had incredible faith.  Always.  From the time she was little her motto has been, "Things will work out.  He always takes care of me."   

           This morning the moon was shining through the window onto the living room floor.  As I knelt down to say my prayers, in the moonlight because it was just so pretty, I felt happy inside that such a sight was there waiting to greet me that early in the morning.  The moon, the picture above that my nephew took, and Cali--things I've seen today that teach me to trust the Creator for all I have not seen.  

         

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Kitchen Help

January 29, 2007

 

 

            A few of Ande’s friends asked her if she’d teach them to make pies.  They came out Friday afternoon and made a blackberry and apple pie.

 

 

 

 

            Cali made a chocolate soufflé Sunday afternoon from a recipe she’d found in a magazine.  It was oh-so-rich and good.

 

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Homemaking

January 26, 2007

 

 

            Last week I had to give a talk to young women about building a home that can withstand the barrage of attacks on families and home.  Using puppets I’d made from Jan Brett’s incredible website, I tweaked the story of “The Three Little Pigs” to teach the point I wished to make.  The point being to build a home on a firm foundation of Christ and place bricks of faith, prayer, order, learning, sacrifice, etc. to strengthen your home so that it can withstand the very big and very bad breath of the Big Bad Wolf.

            In the story, the wolf threatened the pig that he would huff and puff and blow her house in, and she did hear the wind howling, but because she was busy inside making her home better (baking cookies, sewing a pillow, reading a good book, budgeting her paycheck) she wasn’t overly concerned.  (Besides, she had the vinyl art “If ye are prepared ye shall not fear” posted over her doorframeJ)

            It was a fun little talk to give.  I really, really enjoy homemaking and love having a safe, comfortable place for my family, friends and acquaintances to be.  I like some of the tasks more than others and decided to rate today’s tasks from the least enjoyable to the most enjoyable:

 

Dusting

Pulling hair out of the bathtub drain

Putting sheets back on the bed

Emptying the dishwasher

Ironing

Vacuuming

Washing the laundry

Baking bread

Budgeting

Washing dishes

Cooking supper

Reading

 

            Three tasks tied for top place:  visiting with my family, eating supper together and the responsibility of creating a calm, peaceful atmosphere. 

 

What homemaking task do you like least?  Most?

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I really enjoyed your homemaking post.  What a wonderful way to present a valuable lesson!  I think I'll adapt this idea to my children's family home evening lessons.  The use of nursery rhymes would surely catch their attention.
 
My least enjoyable homemaking task would be mopping.  But I really like the way the floors look and feel when it's done; so I tell myself while doing it, "I'm blessing the floor.  I'm blessing our home."
 
I would say that vacuuming is up there with most enjoyable homemaking tasks.  :)  It's an instant satisfaction thing for me to see it all sucked up and then empty the vacuum and see how much gets dumped in the trash.  (I have a bagless vacuum.)  I think my children can tell how much I enjoy it because they really want to be the helper during vacuum-time. 
 
I also love baking bread.  I never thought about it as a homemaking task though.  I never thought about it as something to possibly dislike either.  I feel very empowered when I make bread. 
 
Tonight, to get my five year old boy to sleep, I promised him that he could be my helper tomorrow when we change sheets, dust, vacuum, and sanitize toilets & doorknobs, etc.  I never would've thought that I could bribe my children into sleepfulness with the promise of chores.  :) 
 
As always, I enjoy your posts!
 
Nikki

 

 

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No Clue

January 24, 2007

 

This fall, Calvin trapped a skunk that was getting into the quail pen

 

            Every now and then when Calvin does something out of the ordinary, Cali will ask me, “Did you know this about dad before you guys got married?”  Usually the answer is, “I had an inkling.”  Sometimes the answer is, “Yup and I loved him anyway.”  Occasionally the answer is, “I had no clue.”  One thing I was clueless about?  His projects. 

            Like today,  I had just walked in the door from a great day—taught my classes, went to a class, got a great haircut and had a fun visit with Melanie—and was greeted by a smell that made me think a cat had crawled in the house and died.  I walked into the kitchen and saw “a project.”  I should have known.  His projects always make our house smell funny.

            We were newlyweds with his first project.  I came home to what I thought was chopped tomatoes in the blender.  The cupboard was a mess, fresh dishes were in the sink and I thought, “Don’t be mad, Jane, just smile and clean it up.” So I did.  After I’d finished cleaning the kitchen he came in from doing chores (we were living on the ranch then) and he asked, “Do you know where the muskrat brains are?” 

            Who’d have guessed those chopped looking tomatoes were muskrat brains?  He’d trapped a muskrat earlier and was tanning the hide.  He mistakenly thought I knew “that every animal has enough brains to tan his own hide.”  While most ranchers’ freezers are full of beef, ours was full of skunk, beaver, coyote and muskrat pelts—his projects.

            Once we left the ranch, Calvin could no longer trap so he started another line of projects:  building black powder guns, longbows and cedar chests.  Though I learned fast to tell the difference between gunstocks and firewood, I was slower to learn that he would ruin any of our kitchen pans that I did not adamantly make off-limits to gun making.  And the smell of gun making?  Sulfur. 

            Last spring, he started another project.  When I wasn’t looking, he hooked the incubator up in the family room and put quail eggs in it.  For nineteen days our house smelled like a swamp while we waited for the birds to hatch.   

            Today’s dead-cat-smell project was harmless.  It was just a bunch of wet sagebrush drying in the oven.  I thought I was a sagebrush connoisseur growing up in Southern Idaho and all, but apparently there is a type I didn’t know about.  Calvin needed the dry, fine sagebrush as tinder so that he could teach the Boy Scouts how to start a fire by friction tonight.

            Did I know he loved projects like this before we got married?  Nope.  Not a clue.  I’d have married him anyway, I’d have just asked for nose plugs instead of a ring.

 

What about you?  What surprises were in store for you?

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Jane,
I can't tell you how many times I have thought "I never knew he would do
this!'  I really should have spent more time around Milo's dad, that would
have given me plenty of insight!  But believe it or not, I wouldn't change a
thing. Love the dead skunk!  =)  Mel

 

 Jane-
            Loved your blog the last couple of days - I'm in the middle of a scrapbooking project for Valentine's day called "The Greatest Love Story Ever Told".  In it, we have looked at many of those - did you know this before you got married? - and journaling about why we'd do it all again anyway.  It's turning out great!     Keep blogging - it makes my day . . .     Heather

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Quotable Quote

January 23, 2007

 

            I used to post a good quote every Tuesday and then comment on it.  I got sidetracked for a few months, but I’m back on track again.

 

“The true measure of a man is how he spends his time

when he doesn’t have to do anything.” 

-David O. McKay

 

            Today of all days, school was called off.  Last week I was certain they would call it off at least one or two days but they didn’t.  I wasn’t even suspecting it to be cancelled today and got to school before I even knew it.  I turned around and came home to a day where I didn’t have to do anything for a few hours.  I spent my free time reading—fixed a cup of hot chocolate, a couple of pieces of toast, pulled out a comforter, curled up and read a book. 

            I’ve been reading John Adams by David McCullough.  What a compelling book about a compelling man.  However, today I set it aside and read a quilting novel set in the pre-civil war era.  I also tried a new chocolate crock-pot dessert.  (I’ll let you know how it turns out.)  My true measure found me reading a novel (though novels certainly have a place, I’d rather report I spent my time reading John Adams) and consuming chocolate.  Alas, my true measure is a chocolate fluff rather than a meaty substance.

 

Updated to add:  when the crock-pot recipe says to cook it on low for 4-5 hours, it means to cook it on low for 4-5 hours, it does not mean to adjust it to fit your schedule and cook it on high for 2- 2 1/2 hours.  Update my true measure to be a burnt chocolate fluff.

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 My dearest Jane,
Some days are just meant for fluff, and today was one of them.  I had a mountain of things to do, but fluff won out, and I watched movies with my girls, curled up with a blanket, with my book by my side, in case I got bored.  It just seemed like that kind of day.  Love, Susan

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To Blog About It or Not to Blog About It, That is the Question

January 22, 2007

             I seldom mention Abe.  Not that out-of-sight means out-of-mind, quite the contrary, it’s just that while he’s serving a mission for The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints in the Philippines, I can’t run entries by him before I post them to make sure he approves, because . . . he’s busy.  And since I learned years ago nothing that compromises your kids or your relationship with your kids is worth writing about, I haven’t posted on him much.  Because missionaries are focused on teaching and helping the people where they're called to serve, contact is somewhat limited though we do have contact with him through Sunday night e-mails, occasional letters and two phone calls a year (on Christmas Day and Mother’s Day).  I asked him in my last e-mail if I could write about him every once in awhile as long as I was careful and used good judgment.  He said he didn’t mind.  I love the following three pictures.

 

 

Abe and his mission companion on their way to a teaching appointment

 

 

Abe with one of the men he taught.  Abe affectionately refers to him as his little starfish.  He said the man never catches anything and is very, very poor.

 

 

 

I think this place looks so cool—Swiss Family Robinson style.

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Ty riding in a helicopter through the alps.

 

 What a Month to set a Goal

January 20, 2007

 

            Ty’s New Year’s Resolution was to try to become more involved in his ward (the term used by The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints to signify a congregation).  Though he goes to church every Sunday and Institute (religion class) on Monday, academy responsibilities have kept him from participating in activities other than those.  He decided this year to make a bigger effort to attend weekday activities in his ward.

            Last week the ward activities committee was asking for volunteers to try out for Mr. Singles Ward.  No one offered.  Ty thought of his New Year’s Resolution to be more supportive and slowly, slowly, slowly raised his hand—wishing he’d have chosen another goal.  Others started to volunteer.  The contestants are judged in several categories and here is their list of instructions from the woman in charge:

 

-Evening (Sunday) wear- You may be as creative or formal as you wish, just keep in mind that you will be judged on the quality of your appearance, both in dress and on the stage.  Details, gentlemen, are the giveaways.

 

Ok, details.  He can do details with Sunday wear.  He has a suit and cuff links and knows how to link them or he has a uniform that he has to wear a shirt garter with.   He’s got details covered.

 

-Talent- There is a 3 minute time limit.

 

Oh boy.  Talent.  He can’t sing, he doesn’t know how to dance, but he can do back flips from the stage or run up a wall and flip off of it.  I never thought I’d cheer for that talent of his, I have spent my life hollering at him that he “was gonna get hurt.”

 

-Questions & Answers- Don't be dumb, rude, or crude.  Humor is appreciated—stupidity is not.

 

He’s not lude, crude or rude by nature so he should be ok, but I can see him saying, “I really don’t have an answer to that” if something stumps him rather than schmoozing.  I think you’re supposed to schmooze in pageants. 

 

-Date- Everyone should select, ask, and plan their own date.  Before it actually occurs, I NEED to know the lucky girl's name, phone number, and/or an email address.  I must speak with her and she will need some stuff from me.  Keep originality/creativity and etiquette in mind—she will be evaluating you.

 

The date is tonight.  He is taking her to a museum, out to eat and to “Night at the Museum.”  I don’t know how she’ll enjoy the date, but one thing is for certain, she will never open her own door.  He has been opening Cali, Ande’s and my car and building doors for four years running.  He gets quite miffed if we get in the car without him.  He runs from one side of the car to the other to accommodate us.  Other than that?  I’m betting that he’ll take her to eat somewhere that serves beef.  If he takes her to his favorite place they’ll also have peanut shells all over the floor (Texas Roadhouse).  I’m not sure how his date will feel about peanut shells on the floor.

 

-"All about me" poster.

 

Hmmmm.  Not sure what he’ll put on that as I have most of his pictures.  He could use purple skittles wrappers as the background.  He tries to hold himself to one pack a day, but when I called him the other night and asked how his day went he said, “It was a three pack of skittles day.”

 

-Dessert- Bring a dessert.  Homemade is better than store bought.

 

He doesn’t have access to a stove, freezer, crock-pot or fridge.  I’m not sure what he’ll pull out of the hat.  Any suggestions?

 

-Pick up line- They will be written on a card and read by the emcee so that the line itself and not the guy will be judged.  The winner will be the crowd favorite.

 

I had no suggestions in this category.  Not one.  Any ideas out there?  Calvin’s are too old to be considered.

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Jane,

I loved your post.  I thought Milo might have a couple lines for Ty but his were clearly from his dad, they were as bad as Calvin's I'm sure!

Love, Melanie

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Journal Jar

January 18, 2006

 

 

            I have enjoyed keeping a journal jar.  It's a fun way to keep a record and an easy way to store little things (I would be sorely tempted to throw them out otherwise).  Mine is an old pickle jar that was in my grandma’s basement and I’ve filled it with memorabilia that’s important to me.  This week I finally got around to writing down why each item is significant, so now it’s like a real live picture book with a few words.

            Gloves:  This pair of gloves was made by Grandpa George’s brother, Charles Chadwick.  Charles tanned the leather before sewing the gloves.  Grandma Erma (Grandpa George’s wife) liked to wear them, especially driving, because they were supple and soft.   Grandma Erma was a funny grandma.  She had swollen, thick ankles that she covered with heavy support hose.  I mention it because she always mentioned them.  When stockings were rationed during WW II, Grandma wrote the stocking company and begged for a new pair to replace her damaged ones.  She told them it was their civic duty to protect the public from the sight of her heavily varicosed veins.  The company sent her six pairs.  Grandma Erma was a former teacher and corrected our grammar when she came to visit.  From her I learned there is no “r” in wash and that some people pronounce it “creek” instead of crik, and “roof” instead of ruf.  Grandma Erma was a storyteller, letter-writer, organizer, scrap-quilter and debater.  Her preferred mode of transportation was the Greyhound bus.  Grandma was a Democrat in a Republican state.

            Miniature story books:  One year Grandpa and Grandma Hoops took us to the Salt Palace in Salt Lake City, Utah to see the Ice Capades—we even saw the Olympian, Peggy Flemming, skate.  After the ice show we went to the sky room at Hotel Utah for a dinner of scallops.  Grandma always ordered expensive food.  We also got to go in a little gift shop and buy a memento for our trip.  I picked out these little story books.  They remind me of Grandma Hoops and all the special little things she did to make us feel important.

            Grandma Julia was compact, like a shapely barrel if there is such a thing.  Her dresses were fitted, made of paisley cloth and pricey.  Grandma Julia loved dolls, diamonds, and luxury cars.  She was a former teacher, but unlike Grandma Chadwick, she only corrected our table manners.  Every morning she fixed Grandpa Cream of Wheat with wheat germ for breakfast and in the evenings she trimmed the fat from his steaks.  Grandma liked burnt toast, roses, and peonies.  When Grandma Julia came to visit she brought a gallon of ice cream or a box of candy bars with her.  She was proud of us grandchildren and took us with her to visit her friends (I think she was proud we could sit on the couch so very still for so very long while she talked and talked).  Grandma liked to give rides and food to the widows and homebound.  She used both feet on the brakes.

            The blue sparkly ring:  One year my sister, Rachel, and her family came for Christmas.  Calder drew my name and bought me this ring.  Everyone needs a Calder in her life.  He is so sweet and without guile.  He often is in a world all his own.  Here is one of my favorite Calder stories that Rachel e-mailed me:

            “A funny one this morning:  I was driving into the store with Cache, Calder, and Pal.  Calder says out of the blue, "Mom, do you like the smell of the thrift store?" 

            Me: "Uh....no....why??" 

            Calder: "Oh, I was just wondering I HATE it.  I really, really HATE it." 

            Me: "Hmmm......" 

            Then there was a long silence.  I was kind of smiling to myself over Calder’s oddity when he said, "Mom, do you like the smell of Aunt Jane's garage?" 

            Then I really smiled and said, "Um.....I don't know.  I guess I never really noticed a smell in Aunt Jane's garage, did you?" 

            Calder: "Yup.  It's my FAVorite!  I love Aunt Jane's garage smell." 

            HA.  What does your garage smell like Jane?  I just thought that was too funny.  It's not your kitchen, or clean house smell he likes, he likes your GARAGE.  Then he said, "________’s house ALMOST smells like Aunt Jane's garage....but not exactly."  He went on looking out the window as we drove. 

            Cache started to laugh silently, but then he leaned over and said, "I kind of like Aunt Jane's garage smell too."  And he was serious.  SO...next time we come, don't roll out the red carpet or work on cleaning the house too much, we're just coming for your rubber boots, and trash.

           

             My kids love to look through my journal jar and have the stories retold that go with the items.

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Hi Jane,
   When I read about your journal jar earlier I thought it was such a good and clever idea that I borrowed it for myself.  I now have my own journal jar on the shelf over my computer and it serves two purposes.  It looks quite decorative and it holds all of the small treasures that I brought back from South Africa.  We've been home for almost 13 years but I kept finding these small momentos scattered around in drawers etc.  Now as I find them I drop them in my jar and the collection (though unrelated) stays together.  There's a necklace, my missionary badge, a telephone list, etc.,etc, and still room for more things as I come across them.
   Thanks for all of your good ideas.  We loved the ministrone soup from your newsletter.
   Please know that I check in almost every day and continue to enjoy your blog so much.
   Sending Love to You and Your Family.........Ruth Palmer

 

I love the idea of putting all those little things in a place that you can see them, but they are contained!  That is a great idea.  And your jar is decorated so cute, love that big J!  

SusanPyle_

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The Cat

January 17, 2007

 

            Today was one of those funny days where my claws were out scratching one minute and my tail was between my legs the next.  A couple of times I wanted to growl and slap like a spoiled, displaced cat, but the next I felt so good I wanted to curl up, wrap my tail around me and soak it all in.  I don’t really care for cats and so the day felt terribly abnormal.

 

  • I thought for sure we’d have delayed-start school with last night’s snowstorm.  I even banked on it and slept in until 5:00 am.  I should never try to outsmart the schoolmaster.  We did not have delayed start.  Grrrr.
  • The drive into school was beautiful—fresh snow and frozen fog crystals.  Prrrrr.
  • I felt impatient and easily annoyed.  Grrrr.
  • The kids were pleasant and happy at seminary today.  Prrrrr.
  • The kids were silly.  Grrrr.
  • I mailed a couple of fun packages off, one to my nephew for his birthday and the other to Cali.  Prrrrr.
  • The postmaster (a father of twelve) told me his fellow co-worker, Stan, died last week.  He was bothered by it.  I was glad I was there to listen.  Prrrrr.
  • I got two Christmas cards in the mail today—one from a brand new blogging friend, one from an old, old friend.  Friends make me smile.  Prrrrr.
  • I attended an interesting class today on the writings of John, the Beloved.  Prrrrr.
  • I came home late, was starved, and ate six peanut butter cookies.  Grrrr.
  • I got a little notebook for my purse with my name on it and a very sweet card from a friend.  Prrrr.

            I’m not moody by nature, but today I felt terribly unstable.  I think I need a nap; it would be the prrrrrfect cat thing to do.      

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Love your day through the eyes of animals.  Too funny.  I could use a nap myself
Jenny ;) 

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Cradle Rockers

January 16, 2007

 

 

            When the kids were little, I KNEW I was doing something important.  After all, the hand that rocks the cradle rules the world and there are few more important jobs on this globe than running planet Earth.  As the kids have grown older and I’ve (ahem) matured, I’m even more convinced that nurturing other people is a big and important job.  I’m not the only one who thinks this way, ‘cause I saw it in his eyes.

            My neighbors had a baby a couple of days ago, their first, and so I took the little family supper last night.  The father was sitting on the couch with the little baby bundled up and lying on his dad’s chest.  The baby looked so tiny lying on the 6’3” body.  I didn’t want to be a nuisance and planned to just drop the food off at the door—the baby is just a few days old—but the dad asked me to come in, sit down and hold the baby.  Who can resist a Johnson smelling new baby?  It was sooo hard not to nuzzle and kiss him; he was ever so new and beautiful.

            After a few minutes I again got ready to leave (not wanting to sap the new mom) when the dad started to unwrap the sleeping baby so he could show me how big his hands and legs and feet and toes and fingers and knees and thighs were.  It was so sweet.  I loved seeing how much that dad loved his little boy.  There is nothing like a strong hand to help the gentle hand rock a cradle.

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               Details:  This is definitely the most comfortable bed in our home.  It is an old, twin-sized bed that Cali earned.  It used to be my nephew's, but when he got a new bed Cali offered to do  chores in exchange for the bed.  She painted it and has slept in it for a dozen years.  Everyone in our family likes this bed and even today, when I see Cali curled up in it, I still feel pretty darn important because I got to rock her cradle.

 

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January 14, 2007

 

            We received this beautiful plate rack for Christmas from Ty’s USAFA host parents. 

 

 

            It was the only black thing in the dining room, till now.  Yesterday I painted and painted till I didn’t want to paint anymore.  I painted the tabletop one more time as well as the two benches and the chairs. 

 

 

            It only took me about three hours, but sitting on the kitchen floor it was yoga without a mat or meditation and nothing but a stiff joints exercise.  I had decided while painting (I was listening to Bach, Beethoven and Mozart and strictly attribute this thought to inspiration through the classics) that we should eat at McDonald’s.  Clearly, it was a flash of brilliance on how to feed the family while avoiding the black paint on the benches, table and chairs.  After I’d finished painting and threw away my clothes, (I love when I can throw away clothes—it just feels so . . . so . . . disposable.  I wear and wear and wear them way past the point of decently wearing them and then throw them away like they are a paper towel.  It feels so good, other than by the time I have worn them this long I am attached and there is a touch of sadness.) I went to town to get some movies and pick up food at McDonald’s.  Calvin ordered a Big&Tasty with fries.  Cali said she wanted peaches and toast and would navigate the kitchen clutter to fix it.  Ande didn’t want anything from McDonald’s either. 

            I picked out movies (Ever seen Codebreakers?  It’s an ESPN movie about the cheating scandal at West Point involving the football team back in the ‘50’s) and headed to McDonald’s.  Ande called and said she’d changed her mind and wanted some chicken nuggets and fries.  I had a $20 bill to buy the movies and hamburgers and after I ordered Calvin’s and Ande’s food I realized I was out of money and so didn’t order me anything.  I wasn’t super hungry and thought toast and peaches sounded pretty good at that point anyway (and would maybe grace me with good news on the scale the next morning).  I did eat a few fries out of the bag on the way home because I knew if they noticed I hadn’t gotten me something they’d say something and so I ate a few fries on the way to be able to say, “I ate on the way home.” 

            When I got home and got everything ready to start the movies and eat, Ande said, “Where’s your food mom?” 

            I told her I’d already eaten and she said, “What?” 

            Well, I hadn’t counted on needing that answer and didn’t have one ready so I said, “Fries and stuff” and went into the other room to put the paintbrush and paint away.     Everyone followed me into the room and I stood real quiet-like behind the curtain (the paint and paintbrush go on a shelf strategically covered by a curtain), Cali laughed, “She’s hiding from us!” and Ande accused, “You didn’t get you any food did you?” 

            I came out from behind the curtain and started laughing and said, “I ran out of money, but I wasn’t hungry and I had just the right amount so it was just perfect.” 

            Calvin and the girls really pelted me then and Ande started to cry.  She said, “I’m sorry.  I’m such a selfish girl.  If I hadn’t called you at the last minute you’d have had enough money for you.  I’m sorry I’m so selfish.” 

            I tried to console her and said I didn’t feel bad one bit and wasn’t hungry (there seems to be some magical digestive juices that make a mother’s stomach not hungry when there is not enough to go around).  I gave Ande a hug, reminded her of what a kind and thoughtful child she is and told her to drive slowly on her way to the ballgame and remember to call home.  She left.

Ande is very good about calling whenever she gets to where she is going or whenever she is headed home, but lots of time passed and still no call.  Even factoring extra time in for the slick roads she didn’t call, so I called her.  She was crying and said she’d be home in a few minutes and explain things.  She pulled in a few minutes later and had a McDonald’s sack with her.  She’d driven clear to McDonald’s to get me food and had decided not to go with her friends to the game after all.  She cried and cried and cried.  Oh my.  It was the sweetest and I will make sure I have enough money when I go to McDonald’s next time if it in anyway affects Ande.  Everyone curled up on the couch and watched movies and we had a great evening.

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Thank you for sharing such a touching post.  I hope my children are just as awesome and thoughtful and charitable as yours when mine are all adults. 
 
By the way, the dining room looks great!  I enjoyed (and have been enjoying) all your details.  I especially liked the disposable clothes bit.  I find my clothes are finally disposable (though they should have been long before) when I'm done painting.  Nikki

 

Ka-ching to you Jane!  A mother pay day!  Ande IS the sweetest thing!  I also love your new dining room.  Doesn't it feel good when it is all done.  I love that new feeling with out having to get something new!  Susan

Jane, I love your table!  I just traded my 70's table for a different 70's
table because it has more potential to be painted when the weather warms up.
I would do it now but the kids cannot be trusted to stay away!  Will you
help me with all your tips and tricks when I decide to do it?

Ande is such a doll.  She learned a life lesson, one I doubt she forgets.  
Lessons like that stick with us and help us become better people,  our world
needs more Ande's!

Love, Melanie  You are the best mother Jane, I need your example too.  =)!!
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Today’s Details

January 11, 2007

 

  • Made 18 loaves of bread.
  • Secretly rejoiced that it was too cold to exercise.
  • Taught my regular classes.
  • Took a nap.
  • Made pizza for supper and tried to fool Calvin and Ande by cutting the ham with a round biscuit cutter to make it look like Canadian bacon.
  • Made terrible diabetic peanut butter cookies.  No cookie is better than these were.  I’m not even sure the chickens will like them.
  • Talked on the phone with Deb and apologized for accidentally putting spaghetti sauce in her Christmas present instead of Alfredo sauce. (She is allergic to tomato sauce—nothing like a yule attempt to poison a friend.)
  • Wasted time on the computer.
  • Listened to the classical cd's from the library (that Mozart sounds like he was one happy man).
  • I’m relieved today does not have a twin.

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Reading it sounds like at least there was some good out of it.  You made 18 loaves of bread! You must have been slaving in the kitchen all day.  That's a lot of work.  Don't we all waste time on the computer? I have to make myself stay away and often set a time limit for myself to restrain.  Here's to a better tomorrow!  jenny :)

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Daily Details

January 10, 2007

 

                On my way home today I stopped to see an elderly woman who quilts beautifully.  We were at a party together recently and she told me of a quilt she was piecing for a soldier and invited me to stop and see it.  The quilt was beautiful—an arrangement of randomly pieced blocks.  Several quilting guilds across the nation piece quilts to give to the wounded soldiers in Iraq.  When the servicemen and women are airlifted to the hospitals they have nothing with them so many quilting groups have been sewing quilts for them.  Her work was inspiring.  I told her I hoped our boys never needed a quilt from the guild, but if they did I hoped it was one of hers.

            I also stopped at the library and got a fresh stock of books, cd’s and dvd’s.  It’s been awhile since I’ve been and I actually looked forward to the musty, malodorous place.  Our library was such a disappointment to me when we moved here (besides very few books even the drinking fountain water was warm).  Slowly but surely my memory is dimming that I ever knew of a better library.  Though it is smelly (I always wonder if they’ll discover a whole shelf of hidden rotting books someday), they do have two great policies—no late fees and straight to your mailbox mail service from other libraries at no charge. 

            The saying “Be Smart” is often quoted at Church.  I’ve decided to adopt that motto as one of my goals this year and stretch myself more in what I read and hear.  I picked out a four hour documentary on Napoleon along with some classical cd’s today.  This little corner is where I do my morning reading.  It’s the best lit spot in the house and the loveseat is stiff and upright so I don’t fall asleep easily.  The secretary desk is a late 1800’s/early 1900’s find that I got at a yard sale.  The wash boiler next to the loveseat is a family heirloom where I store books.  The clock chimes keep me company as I read.

 

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My dearest Jane,
Did you see in the paper where the library staff is trying to get a bigger space?  They are saying that they have run out of space.  Hmmmm.   Okay.  They even had a picture.  I love all your old furniture and heirloom items.  We have that in common, that we both are sentimental and love all that old stuff.  Beautiful quilts in your secretary desk too.  Clever storage!  The difference between us, I'm a pack
rat, and you are a thrower.  Funny.  Susan

 

I love your site and check it often!  I just wanted to say how surprised I was when I read your list of 100 things and saw so many resemblences.  I didn't want mine to look like I just copied yours, so I left a lot out that were the same.  But I thought it was so fun to see how much we do have in common!  Thanks for sharing your wealth of knowledge with all us less-knowledgeable.  You are awesome!
 
Nikki Wilcox

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Details

January 9, 2007

 

            I’m always writing in my letters or e-mails to the kids or my sisters, “Don’t forget d-e-t-a-i-l-s.”  I like to know what color of lipstick she wore, what he said next, what they ate, then what happened . . . details.  I’ve decided for the next few weeks I’m going to blog about little details in my life.  Like flight paths. 

            We live directly underneath a flight path of geese and Japan Airlines.  The airport in Moses Lake boasts of having the longest runway west of the Rocky Mountains which was a direct benefit/result of the Air Force base that used to be here.  Japan Airlines took advantage Moses Lake’s underused runway, moderate weather and low taxes to train their pilots.  Many afternoons of the year, low flying passenger planes circle over our house (we’re about 15 miles from the airport and just far enough for the planes to have practiced their take-offs, turn overhead and head back to practice their landings without using too much gas).  When we first moved here I watched every plane fly over.  I kept expecting one to crash (I’ve ridden with more than one kid learning how to drive) and knew someone would want my eye-witness account. 

            Likewise, the geese fly over our house in the fall and winter.  Each flock has their own signature “v” . . . some have wide ones, some have skinny ones, some have crooked ones, some have v’s that are longer on one side than the other.  I never tire of seeing the different signatures and hearing them honk. 

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Jane, If you are in the path, then I must be right next to the runway!  Wait, I think I'm pretty close!  The kids love to see the planes here and sometimes they fly so low I can read the numbers on the side.  I laughed at the eyewitness account, I've thought that before too.  In fact just today there was one with dark smoke coming out and it was flying strange.  I watched him for quite a while and only stopped when I didn't hear a boom (the crash).  I love to hear the details too, now if I would just remember to tell them to everyone else!!  Love, Melanie
 

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Art

January 8, 2007

 

 

            Refrigerator art has gone to a whole new level this year at our house.  Ande took her first painting class this fall at the high school and she brought home one of her paintings today.   

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Saturday

January 6, 2007

 

            I can see the back of the fridge!  Two weeks after Christmas and we’ve just about depleted all of the fattening stuff from the shelves.  I need only navigate the gallon can of nacho cheese on the top shelf, the five pound brick of cream cheese on the door and the quart of whipping cream.  Good thing it’s thinning out, my hips are thickening.

            I caught a leak in the nick of time this morning.  I was wiping under the kitchen sink and when I bumped the pipe it sprang a big leak.  Whew, I’m glad I caught it.  I don’t know how many times I have left the house or gone to bed after turning the dishwasher on, knowing it’s a bad idea but doing it anyway.  I’m glad I was here; it could have been a mess, not to mention losing the king-size box of Cascade dishwasher soap stored under there, too.  One time Calvin’s socks caught on fire in the dryer (now that was one hot dryer and I hated to see it goJ) and I was so glad I was home to catch that, too.  Hmmmm.  Wonder what my third close call will be.

            Cali headed back yesterday; Ty flies out in the early morning.  The break is officially ending.  It was fun having them here; we really enjoy each other.  I look forward to the summer when Abe can be here, too.  And maybe, just maybe, everyone’s time schedules will overlap for one week.  I can always hope.

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Hi Jane,

I just read your 100's list and am so glad you posted it. How in the world
do you get up at 4:00am every day? Is that just a habit? Do you do it so you
can have alone-time in the morning or what? I'd like to be more of an early
riser, but 4:00am is still the middle of the night to me.

I'm also curious about the ocean thing. I'm freaked out by the ocean so it
makes perfect sense to me not to want to scuba dive or anything, but since
you're a certified scuba diver your feelings about the ocean are
particularly interesting.

I love slip-on shoes too and wear flip flops almost year round (even in
Utah). Crazy, but true.

I love the idea of reading to kids in the middle of the day rather than
right before bed. I'm so DONE being the mom by 5:00pm so by bedtime I don't
even want to see them let alone read to them. I tend to read to them in the
middle of the day, but hadn't ever thought of doing it on purpose as a way
to avoid night time grumpiness. You're a genius.

Thanks, Jill

 

I am so glad you posted your list. I ALWAYS am fighting cold sores. (an outer form of canker)  I heard lysine pills are supposed to prevent them.  I didn't know they had a real sleepy hollow.  That would totally intrigue me.  I wish you were near me I would love to learn how to plant a garden. I so don't have a green thumb in my body.   Jenny :)

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One Hundred

January 3, 2007

 

            Everybody’s doing it!  The first time I remember jumping on the “everybody’s doing it” craze was with mood rings in the 70’s.  I know “everybody’s doing it” usually leads to trouble, but I loved my mood ring for a day or two. 

             I have enjoyed reading several bloggers’ list of 100 things about themselves and wondered if I had enough guts to bare that many random facts about me.  After debating for a long time, I decided it seems about as revealing as a mood ring; so here goes:

 

  1. I love Abraham Lincoln--been an aficionado since I was in second grade.
  2. I love food.  I like how it makes people happy.
  3. I have six sisters and three brothers. 
  4. I love music and have played the piano since I was eight, but I do not have an ear for it and sing monotone in the tenor range.
  5. I love order and cleanliness, but don’t wish my expectations on others (even my kids).
  6. I am very patriotic.
  7. I am a terrible judge of character, so quit trying several years ago.
  8. I don’t like talking on the phone, at all.  I will avoid it if I can.
  9. I love e-mail.
  10. I have been published in a few magazines.
  11. I have taught classes at Education week.
  12. I bombed when I had to speak at a large dairyman’s conference.  I was not worth the money they paid me and am still embarrassed about it.
  13. I am not good at fashion or make-up.
  14. I am good at making do.
  15. I grow a large garden every year.
  16. My garden gets away from me every August despite my good intentions.
  17. My children and husband mean the world to me.
  18. I love slides or slip-on shoes.
  19. I have ridden a camel.
  20. I competed in the High School National Finals Rodeo (on a horse, not a camelJ).
  21. When I graduated from high school I no longer had any desire to compete athletically.
  22. I love being a homemaker.  I love a home that feels good.
  23. I wish I had a college degree.
  24. I like to walk and walk and walk.  I’d have been a content pioneer.
  25. I can sew, but not well.  I do not understand patterns.
  26. I’m an interpersonal learner, but not an audio learner.  Give me a group of people who express themselves and interact and I’ll learn quicker and remember more than if I hear someone give instructions.
  27. Ocean waves mesmerize me.
  28.  I am a state champion volleyball player.
  29. I love to sit on the beach (or bench) and guess people’s occupations as they walk by.
  30. I always fight canker sores. 
  31. I get up at 4:00 am most mornings of the year.
  32. I cannot stay up past 9:30 pm very many nights in a row without a nap.
  33. I always try to give eye contact when I talk to people.
  34. I don’t like to feel exposed, which is directly contrary to this list.
  35. I marvel, on a regular basis, that I have so many blessings.
  36. I try to cram too much into everything (boxes, Calvin’s drawers, notebooks, time, lists, the day, lessons) and it drives me and my family crazy.  I used to think it was a virtue (ummm…efficient), but now that it is firmly implanted I see it as a vice (ack…greed?).  I am having a hard time getting rid of it.
  37. I love biographies of good people.
  38. I love my nieces and nephews.
  39. I watch very little TV.
  40. My favorite music is movie scores (two of my favorites are the score from Forrest Gump and Quigley Down Under.  Albeit The Alamo is nice and so is Master and Commander.)
  41. I like to teach. 
  42. I really like to teach.
  43. I really, really like to teach.
  44. I am a peacemaker.
  45. I have unrealistic fears regarding our kids.
  46. I am resilient.
  47. I am a poor judge of time.
  48. My love language is quality time.
  49. I come from a very, very dysfunctional family.
  50. I am a certified scuba diver but have no desire to dive again, ever.
  51. I ran out of air at the bottom of the ocean, but that isn’t why I don’t ever want to do it again.  I just don’t.  The ocean is too deep and creepy to explore except in the comforts of an IMAX theatre.
  52. I love to swim.  Just not at the bottom of the ocean.  The breast stroke is the stroke of choice.
  53. I love nuts.  Especially ones covered in chocolate.
  54. I mostly cook from scratch out of habit.
  55. I eat potatoes daily in some form . . . at least once.
  56. Mice make me angry.  They take things that aren’t theirs.
  57. Our family trades plates at restaurants.
  58. I can see a piece of me and a piece of Calvin in each of our kids.  Each combination in each child is different.
  59. When I was ten years old a dog ripped my upper lip open.  The wound required lots of stitches and plastic surgery at Primary Children’s hospital.  To this day I automatically cover my lip when I go near dogs.
  60. If I owned a perfume factory, I would make lilac perfume.  I think lilacs are the prettiest smell ever.
  61. Blue is my favorite color though I seldom wear it.
  62. I wear a lot of hand-me-down clothes and I love them.
  63. I am easy to convince to seeing things your way.
  64. I like to shop for groceries and remember unit prices for years.  Grocery bargains make my day.
  65. I taught all of our kids to swim.
  66. I homeschooled all of our kids one grade.
  67. I love popcorn. 
  68. I have traveled much of the United States, but never the South.  I’d like to see it.
  69. I enjoyed going to the real Sleepy Hollow in New York.
  70. I enjoy sleeping under the stars.
  71. I am a homebody . . . big time.
  72. I like people.
  73. I contradict myself in what I like.
  74. I am nostalgic.
  75. I can throw/give things away without a second thought.
  76. People are important to me.  All kinds and ages.
  77. I really like George W. and Laura Bush.  I think they are good people.
  78. I have chickens.  My kids hate them.  Chickens make me feel waste free.  They eat our scraps and give us eggs in return.
  79. I often feel guilty about little things of no significance in the big scheme.  It pulls me down.
  80. I don’t like to embarrass people.  I like it when people feel wanted.
  81. I like Tom Hanks and Jimmy Stewart.
  82. I would have loved to have more children, but wouldn’t trade what I’ve got.
  83. I used to not like my name.  I wanted famous initials like my sister’s—C.C. just like Christopher Columbus.  Then, one day I realized my initials matched Jesus Christ and I was happy with my name after that.
  84. I have lots of moles.  Silent ones.  I pretend they’re friendly freckles, but the doctor says I should watch them.
  85. I laugh a lot. 
  86. I don’t like flying by the seat of my pants, but often feel like I am.
  87. I like January because it is low key and has few expectations attached to it and also because it gives me the most free time of any of the months.
  88. I love Disneyland.
  89. We eat two meals together each day when at all possible.
  90. I love potlucks.  Especially potlucks with store bought food like Kentucky Fried Chicken and Oreos and chips.
  91. My sister, Rachel, and I have e-mailed nearly every day for over ten years; hence I have volumes of journals. J 
  92. I like sugar in all its lovely forms.
  93. My favorite unhealthy cereal is Sugar Pops®  My favorite healthy cereal is Grape-Nuts®
  94. I made an exception for bumper stickers when the kids started putting their college stickers on.
  95. I reached a goal last year that I thought was impossible.
  96. I love good stories.
  97. I’d like to think up one good quote where people could say, “Ahhh.  That’s sooooo true.”
  98. I’m not crazy about Italian food unless it’s really Americanized.
  99. I never read our kids bedtime stories.  I was too cross by that time of the day so I read to them at noon instead when I wasn’t so tired.  I wonder if they feel cheated. 
  100. I love to learn new things.

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Neighbor Jane...should I assume your name is Jane? I don't know. I have found your blog through several other blogs, but most commonly Jill. I so enjoyed reading your list and you can find mine here if you want to take a look.

I related to a lot on your list like being a homebody, loving popcorn, not being good with fashion, we have the same love language, i love learning new things.

I am impressed you home schooled your children. I haven't ever wanted to attempt it.   Amy M
 

 

Jane,
I am so glad you caved to peer pressure, sometimes it can be a good thing!  I LOVE learning more about you and this list did not disappoint.

The ocean is creepy, you are great at eye contact, love that you email for a
haircut, I love popcorn, slip  on shoes are my favorite too!  I could go on
and on!  You are a wonderful example on so many levels, thanks for being a
great friend and a great blogger!  Melanie

 

 

Number 56 made me laugh!  And number 99 was a 'light bulb' moment for me, my kids will thank you!  Thanks so much for sharing Jane.  Chris

 

We are a lot alike!  Turns out there are 58 in all!  (Here are a few)  Susan Walker

 

1.       I love music and have played the piano since I was eight.  (I also play violin & viola and love to sing.)

2.       I marvel, on a regular basis, that I have so many blessings.  (I feel I do this more than the average person, too.)

3.       I really, really like to teach.   (Well, I don't teach, but I always dreamed of becoming a teacher.)

4.       I have traveled much of the United States, but never the South.  I’d like to see it.  (You would love the South.  I visited an "online" friend in New Orleans last year, and absolutely fell in love with the place, much to my surprise.)

5.       I like Tom Hanks and Jimmy Stewart.   (Tom Hanks is my favorite "current" actor, Jimmy Stewart, my favorite from years ago.)

6.       I love Disneyland.  (We have season passes!  We have been at least 5-6 times this past year.)

7.       I never read our kids bedtime stories.  I was too cross by that time of the day so I read to them at noon instead when I wasn’t so tired.  I wonder if they feel cheated.    (Me, too.  I do, however, often sing to them at bedtime.  Well, these days, at least to my 7yo daughter.  My 11yo son has kind of outgrown it, unfortunately.)

 

Aw Jane, we are so much alike, down to cereal choices!   I have a college friend who still sends me Sugar Pops because we’d empty bowls of them in the dorm.

Except I think you may be a BIT more of a go-getter than me, and I HATE HATE HATE to teach.  But I LOVE LOVE LOVE a good teacher, in fact, I married one.  Because I LOVE LOVE LOVE to learn, just for the knowledge’s sake. 

Thanks for your listJ  Deb Meyers

 

Thanks for the recipe for Wienerlangders, I have enjoyed having cookie exchanges over the years myself.  It is so much fun, and  then you end up with some awesome recipes.  We never served a meal on top of it though, that sounds great!  Nice to meet you, hope you will stop by.  Pamela

 

jane,

i finally figured out how to read your blog!  yay!  i love, love, LOVE the name jane and am so glad you're happy with it.  it is one of my favorite names.  my hanna would have been a jane if she hadn't insisted on hanna.  i am in awe at the 4 a.m. thing...i don't think i could do it.  especially with being such a night owl.

 

i too have ridden a camel...a very bumpy ride.  i want to be a better homemaker and admire your gift and love your sharing it.  i am also resilient, come from a dysfuncitonal family and loved chocolate covered nuts.

it's so fun to see what we all have in common.  thanks for sharing!

crystalyn

 

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I’m So Glad Someone Invented the Ball . . .

January 2, 2007

 

Cali, Ande, Ty

 

            We went bowling on Saturday.  I brought up the rear with 47 points . . . and I earned every single one of themJ.  At least it beat the game where every ball I rolled went into the gutter.  We had a great time.  Ande shows no enthusiasm whatsoever when she bowls.  She calmly walks to the end and plops the ball on the wood and watches it slowly make its way to the pins.  And yet, she led most of the first game with all of that gusto.  Ty grins from ear to ear when he bowls (especially on gutter balls), but no sound comes out.  Cali sways her hips and politely bows when she sends her ball down the lane and Calvin looks like he’s watched a bowling match or two.  I have no idea how I look so you’ll have to imagine—what with my 47 and all it shouldn’t be too hard.

 

the kickball gang

 

            Yesterday we invited a couple of families to a game of kickball.  I graced my team with a loss.  It was fun, competitive and we had a great time.  My stomach got as big a workout laughing as my thighs did jumping and kicking.  Did you know that

 

  • You burn 3.5 calories every time you have a good hearty laugh
  • The average pre-schooler laughs or smiles 400 times a day, but the average 35 year old laughs or smiles only 15 times a day?

 

            Yesterday we burned a lot of calories and beat the average.  We grilled hamburgers and played a few other games after kickball.  It felt good to reconnect with friends and laugh so much.

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I’m Satisfied Since I Learned Something New . . .

January 1, 2007

 

            It always throws me a bit when the year ends.  I asked the kids on the way to church yesterday morning if they ever got sad on the last day of the year and they said it had never even occurred to them to be sad.  My head knows December 31st is just another day out of thousands, too, but still the last day of the year is sobering (pardon the pun) to me.  And yet, if I learned something from the year then I feel better.  Hmmmm….

            In January I learned that yellow flowers can make a crappy day into a great day.  One morning I was frustrated with Calvin for being impatient and in exasperation said, “I don’t like feeling like a wart on your nose.”  A few hours later he returned with a bouquet of yellow flowers—hearty, long-lasting ones—that he’d put in a chemical container that had been rolling around in the back of his pickup for several weeks.  On the side of the container he’d written, “To the Wart on My Nose!”  Ahhh, I was no longer mad.  I learned yellow flowers have special power.

            In February I learned that I have several things in common with George Washington.  We were at the supper table when this conversation happened:

           

Me:  Do you know how many things I’ve discovered I have in common with George Washington?

 

Ande:  Oh Geeeezzzzzz!

 

Calvin: Oh dear.  Be careful what you say Ande.  She will remember it.

 

Me:  No, I’m serious.  Come on, guess.  (Pregnant pause.)  I found I have four things in common with him.  See if you can guess them.

 

Ande:  You pray in the middle of the woods?

 

Me:  Oh, I didn’t think of that.  OK  . . . make that five things I have in common with him.

 

Ande:  You secretly want to soak your teeth in wine?

 

Calvin:  What?  I didn’t know that.

 

Me:  Noooooooooo, try again.

 

Ande:  You can’t tell a lie?

 

Me:  Nope, but that’s a good one I wished I had.

 

Ande:  You love your country?

 

Me:  Yep.  That’s one of them.  Keep guessing.

 

Ande:  You can make the most out of a dollar bill?

 

Me:  Oh my goodness!  I have more in common with him than I realized. 

 

Ande:  Hmmmm.  Then what is it you think you do have in common with him?

 

Calvin:  (Starting to stand up) Oh boy.  I can see I’d better go. 

 

Me:  Ah, come on Calvin, see if you can guess at least one before you have to leave.

 

Calvin:  Nope.  Abraham Lincoln last week, George Washington this week.  Who knows who it will be next week?

 

Me:  (obviously not deterred)  OK, then I’ll just tell you guys.  Number 1:  He married someone who had been previously married with two children.

 

Ande:  (Raised eyebrows.)  Number 2?

 

Me:  He was 43 when he took command of the Continental Army, and I’m 43. 

 

Ande:  And what troops are you leading?

 

Me:  No . . . no . . . I’m 43, I just identify with being 43 that’s all.  I cannot imagine being in charge of all the troops at 43.

 

Ande:  Mom, now you’re stretching it.  What’s number 3?

 

Me:  Well . . . we both love West Point!

 

            In March I learned that you can burn your hair off (a big patch, mind you) with a blow dryer and metal brush.  I also learned it will take months to mend, if it ever does.

            In April I learned about blogging.  It opened up a whole new world to me.  Not quite the world that learning to read did, but a new world nonetheless.

            In May I learned about Rachel Scott, one of the Columbine shooting victims, whose life motto was “start a chain reaction of good.” 

            In June I learned about the power of lavender.  I’ve had a bunch of it growing for several years and each year planned to cut it and bundle it, but this was the first year I got it done.  It was a very soothing job, sitting on the grass with the sun beating on my legs while picking and bundling it.  I now know why it is used in relaxation oils.  I’ve never felt so calm while bundling, say dill.  Lavender is worth growing just so I can sit and bundle it in the sun one day out of the year.

            In July I learned more about some of the NJP newsletter subscribers.  In honor of the 100th newsletter, some of the subscribers wrote in to tell about themselves.  Here are a few entries:

 

 

  • Mother of one, wife of none, teacher of some, weighs a ton, needs to run, and reads for fun. 
  • I am an eighty-four year old grandmother to four whom I pray for every day.
  • A woman who loves being 60ish; won't drive by a garage sale without at least stopping for a look; lives in a self-restored 1895 mining shack on Park Avenue in Park City, Utah.
  • I am a busy, energetic wife and a mom of three delightful children.  I love to read, bake, rubberstamp, walk, and have a good time. 

            August taught me that you can never get too much sweet corn to eat, which I had supposed, but never knew for certain.  In partnership with two other men, Calvin raised sweet corn to sell at roadside stands.  For eight weeks we had fresh sweet corn.  I ate it every day except three.

            I learned in September that if your brain needs a rest and your body is too full of toxins, you should consider crying.  It is believed that tears remove byproducts of stress and is good for the body.  Real tears contain toxins (unlike onion tears that contain 98% water).  Crying gives the brain a break and replaces words with water.  And though this won’t be news to you, women cry more frequently than men (testing reveals women cry 5.3 times a month compared to 1.4 times a month for men).   And this won’t be a surprise to you either, but men cry quietly and their eyes neatly brim with tears while women make lots of noises and the tears run down their face.  Humans are the only animals who shed tears of emotion.  (I didn’t know that.  I was fairly certain Mrs. Roberts read to us third graders that Little Anne cried when Old Dan died in Where the Red Fern Grows.) 

            October taught me that you can have a perfect day.  We went to a football game at the Air Force Academy and the whole day was perfect—people, weather, events, fun, food.  Every now and then and perfect day does happen.

            November taught me how to scrapbook my whole life in one little book in a class taught by scrapbook-guru Stacy Jillian.  I also learned how healing scrapbooking can be, even when you don’t think you’re bruised. 

            I learned in December that two perfect days can happen in the same year and they always involve family.  I also learned some spiritual applications to my life that were very simple.  I learned a new appreciation for the classical composers.

            All right.  I feel better.  I’m satisfied with 2006 now and am willing to lay him to rest and start the learning process for 2007.  

 

             Are you satisfied with 2006?  Are you relieved or sad when the year ends?

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I love the idea of learning from the past.  So true.  If that is the case I guess we get wiser and smarter each year right?  Happy New Year!!!!
 
Jenny :)

 

 


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